Reason 1 – You Or Your Partner Will Avoid Conflicts
When you talk to your partner about a difficult issue or problem in your relationship, will he connect with you or will they stay away from you?
Studies show that it is not a great sign if they leave. A 2013 study from the Journal of Marriage and Family found that this type of “cold” behavior in response to conflict was strong or absent from divorce. Another study conducted by Communications Monograph in 2014 came to a similar conclusion; Their study showed that couples who did not try and actively solved their problems were much less happy in their relationship.
Of course, this information may not come as a surprise to everyone … but the next time you try for your wedding and bring up the issue, see how your partner responds.
- Do they ask you questions?
- Do they show concern?
- Or will they ignore you and give you the silent treatment?
If it does not give you the time of day, it can be a very strong indicator that something is bothering your marriage and you need to fix this ASAP.
Reason 2 – Being overly passionate as a newly married couple
It’s a little weird … and a little revengeful. I mean, you think that couple shows love to each other, especially newlyweds, who have the opportunity to build a strong and long-lasting marriage, right? However, this situation does not appear to be the case.
A 2001 study on interpersonal relationships and group processes found,
“As newlyweds, the couples who divorced after 7 or more years were almost giddily affectionate, displaying about one third more affection than did spouses who were later happily married.”
Interestingly, the most passionate, most romantic love stories you read about in books and Hollywood movies are actually less likely to make it in the long run!
Reason 3 – You describe your relationship negatively
A Gottman Institute study conducted interviews with several hundred couples asking various questions about their marriage and spouse … known as “Oral History Interview”. By analyzing the language used in these interviews, the study revealed a strong link between the divorce rate and the language of contempt.
In addition, couples have been together for a long time, explaining many aspects of their relationship with prayer. Now, this may not seem like a very serious study… but it is important to remove one big thing from it… and it is: Obviously, marriage and relationship are nothing perfect, but failed couples tend to zero in on problems and fail to recognize the positive aspects of their partners.
So the next time someone asks you how you feel about your marriage, do your part and talk about the good things that will bring your spouse to the table. Of course, help yourself and write down all the things you like about your spouse and that is why you married them … and if you want to make sure that the list is very respectful and you will be happy with the work you have done!
Reason 4 – Being or having a husband that doesn’t work full time
Now, this is a little touching … especially in this new day and age where women have more opportunities now than ever before … but according to a 2016 Harvard study, shows that the male “breadwinner” template is still prevalent now. This Harvard study suggests that deciding whether or not a couple should live together is not a couple’s economy … but a division of labor.
This study looked at thousands of heterosexual marriages after 1975 and found that full-time unemployed husbands were 3.3% more likely to divorce next year … as opposed to 2.5% between full-time work hobbies. The employment status of the wives did not affect the divorce rate.
Reason 5 – Not completing your high school education
Now, this topic does not apply to most of you, so I will put it briefly, but the Bureau of Labor Statistics revealed that…and I quote…
“The chance of a marriage ending in divorce was lower for people with more education, with over half of marriages of those who did not complete high school having ended in divorce compared with approximately 30 percent of marriages of college graduates.”
Other studies have shown that people who do not finish high school have a very low income… and this puts a clear strain on some marriages. Again, this probably won’t apply to you, but it will be interesting to know anyway!
Reasons 6 – Getting married too young or too old
Now, this may not come as a surprise to many, but married couples in their teens are at higher risk of divorce. Surprisingly, this also applies to those who have been married since their mid-30s. According to a professor at the University of Utah, “after the age of 32, your chances of divorce increase by 5% each year”. Now before you panic, we need to tell you that this does not mean you should rush to the wedding.
You need to make sure you find the right person for you, however, this age factor is a very strong predictor of marital success. The greater the age difference between the two spouses, the higher the risk of divorce.